Moving Home With Children

Moving to a new home is stressful, but it’s even more stressful on your children.

As adults we tend to focus on the practical problems whereas a child will focus on all the losses that the move causes. This can be the loss of their friends or of their safe space.

Children need time to get used to the idea of moving house so don’t put off telling them.

Talk to them about all the positive reasons for the move i.e. new friends, school, closer to family, garden etc. We all know that every child has a natural explorer inside so make the whole experience into a huge adventure.

We know how stressful the move is going to be, so we have put together some helpful tips to help you along the way.

Before you move

• Discuss the moving plans with your kids, if they are old enough to understand. Involve them in some of the decision making, where possible.
• If possible, arrange a day out to your new area, concentrating on the fun places to visit like new playgrounds, leisure centre, restaurants, local tourist attractions, cinema etc.
• Reassure your children about the change. If you are moving far away, consider having a “see you soon” party before you leave.

Packing

• Giving children who are old enough the responsibility for their own stuff will keep the anxiety to a minimum. It can also be therapeutic for kids to go through their belongings, throw out or give away things they no longer want.
• Pack a moving day essentials bag that may include nappies, change of clothes, but also toys, comforters, and blankets.
• Explain to younger children that you are packing their toys into boxes to move to their new home, some children might get upset the thought of losing their toys.

Moving day

• Ideally, the best thing to do is have relatives or friends to look after your children for most of the day. However, if this is not possible, ensure that you explain to young children exactly what is happening and what to expect on moving day.
• Set them their own jobs to do and get them involved.
• Don’t forget to have some snacks and drinks to keep the kids going throughout the day – the last thing you want is a grumpy, hungry three-nagers!
• Make sure their first night in their new home is a special one. Perhaps order in their favourite food, put on their favourite movie or read their favourite book. Anything that feels familiar will put them at ease their first night.

Settling in

• Maintain a routine. While children are adjusting to new homes and schools, you can provide comfort by keeping some things the same. Have the same morning and bedroom routines and don’t change nap or mealtimes.
• Explore the house – make it fun for your children like a game of hide and seek or role play using their imagination.
• Do not expect a child to be ready to go to their new school straight away. They need a little time to get used to their new surroundings. Maybe speak to your new school and ask for introductions to parents of children who have similar interests and hobbies to arrange playdates before they start school.
• Spend time exploring the new area with your child, especially parks, swings or walks. Make sure you point out all the positives of the new area and do not dwell on the negatives.

Most importantly, have fun! Moving home is an exciting time and is the start of a new adventure for you and your family.